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Forrest Norvell's avatar

I want to express my continued admiration and support to both you and Grace. I only wish I could comport myself so admirably in such a difficult and emotionally demanding situation.

I'm distressed to read that your father's apology was so half-hearted. As a pastor and spiritual leader he has the words and disposition to express contrition as directly as he needs to. That he can't find it in himself to do so in a situation like this, where I believe it truly matters, is disappointing. I also think it demonstrates the importance of what you did. He was going to keep covering for this bad, ill-thought-through decision forever unless compelled to do otherwise. In case you need any reassurance that what you did was the right thing (I know that I would – constantly – were I in your situation), you have it from me, a cherished anonymous internet rando.

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Julia's avatar

It is a truly bananas decision to frame this as "oh, all children need to break away from their parents at some point and differentiate themselves" when you are 33 and been out of the house for years and just got married. I am so sorry that you are not being respected as an adult, as someone who needed to bring a very serious issue to light because it was the right thing to do.

I come from a similar background and it's definitely a coded thing to be like "young people these days being influenced by The Culture, and becoming rebellious and breaking their parents' hearts" instead of taking time to understand and absorb where the church and your parents made bad decisions backed by painful assumptions and find room to change.

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