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Daniel Lavery's avatar

also, if you live in NYC and can't afford a copy, let me know! I have a zillion extra author copies and I will leave one a safe distance from your door!

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"If anyone has any advice or thoughts on the matter, I’d certainly welcome it! Not in a “pick my work name” sense, of course – that’s a bit much to ask of newsletter subscribers – but it’s a strange problem to have, and I’d welcome additional perspective."

When I was 30, I changed my long immigrant last name - which I was bullied for FOREVER - to a nice short pretty one, a version of a family middle name on my mother's side. I assumed I wasn't going to get married, so I might as well do it myself - so I did, and I loved it. Five years later, I got married after all, and kept my new last name as a middle name. Twenty years later, I got divorced... and I've kept my married name because it was such a pain in the ass to change it the first time, and I don't have the energy for it.

So, the lesson is - have the name you like, unless it's a huge pain in the ass.

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