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Jakob Cordes's avatar

After reading this, I returned to "Let me save you some time" which I read in 2022, and then decided to put out of my mind for four years as another Piece of Advice for Trans People Which I Am Not. But three weeks ago I did decide to transition and I'm realizing now that the way I've decided to (inject myself with estrogen and inform everyone except my boyfriend after the fact) was definitely influenced by your writing. Thank you!

Daniel Lavery's avatar

Congratulations!!!! This is the way to do it imho!

Holly P's avatar

You got married as a bit? That's commitment and I love it

Daniel Lavery's avatar

Married as a bit and divorced in earnest!

Sarah's avatar

If it wouldn’t be too weird, I’d love a conversation between you and that guy!

Daniel Lavery's avatar

I’ll see if I can get in touch! I think the last time we talked he was getting married for real and needed a copy of our divorce papers

Vee Loring's avatar

I didn't understand until this piece that you were so compelling to me as a blueprint for a lesbianism I couldn't yet admit I wanted because your methods of self-evasion were so much more active and exciting. I tended towards "there but not present" in a way that reminds me of your friend, and a lot of artists and writers I admired in that era turned out to be transmasculine.