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Free Copies of "Meeting New People" For Anyone Who's Been Recently Dumped By A Friend
You do have to come to one of the book events. I'm not made of money
 • Daniel Lavery
I wrote a book about friendship breakups, so I interviewed a bunch of my friends about their friendship breakups
"You're expected to gain and lose friends quietly. A person in unchecked pain makes other people uneasy"
 • Daniel Lavery
A Chat With Sam Bodrojan: Thinking About Our Boyfriends Thinking About Porn
helmet girl and the Chatner together at last/"what are you thinking about" as principled attack
 • Daniel Lavery
Types of Fun
Type V Fun: An activity that was fun in the moment, like a particularly creative moment of cruelty leveraged against a peer during adolescence, but…
 • Daniel Lavery

April 2026

"Soft Play"
some fiction
 • Daniel Lavery
"Any friendship that comes together over a mutual dislike of a third person is the best kind. Don’t let anybody tell you different"
an excerpt from Meeting New People and what happens in a world without designated smoking areas
 • Daniel Lavery
"I don't know where you find the time": On Chasers
One thinks of a chaser as having the placid, unconcerned certainty of Pepe Le Pew, bounding ceaselessly and unidirectionally after someone else’s…
 • Daniel Lavery
Some Thoughts on "Mikey and Nicky"
It's unbelievable, how much milk these two guys drink in the course of a single night. They do a lot of other unbelievable things, too, which is…
 • Daniel Lavery
Helping and making sure everybody sees you being helpful
People will call you tall at 5'8 if you work in senior living. the important thing is to stay humble about it
 • Daniel Lavery

March 2026

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