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"What's the Worst Thing Your Mother Has Ever Said To You?"
A Conversation With Jordy Rosenberg, The Other Trans Man Who Published A Novel About A Difficult Woman Named Barbara This Year
Jul 6
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Daniel Lavery
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The Gamesman's Art of Winning Your Mutual Friends After A Friendship Breakup
One must behave shrewdly at every moment, while all the time appearing to behave naturally, as one moved solely by instinct. The lack of…
Jul 3
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Daniel Lavery
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June 2026
“Did I forget to leave the stove on?”: Dealing with intrusive thoughts for arsonists
Managing intrusive anxious thoughts can be challenging for anyone, but it’s doubly difficult for the arsonist, who often has to flee the scene of his or…
Jun 28
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Daniel Lavery
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End of June Roundup: The elevators broke down at work, the second "only piece of writing advice" I'll ever give you, the monk who wants…
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Jun 24
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Daniel Lavery
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Dialogue from a recent walk in the woods with my two-year-old when a pair of fire trucks unexpectedly drove into the meadow
"They’re all done driving. They have a light that flashes, that beeps, that goes Beep Beep Beep. There’s a button on the bus. You cannot push it. Let’s…
Jun 15
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Daniel Lavery
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Signs Your Best Friend is Thinking of Leaving You
"If you used to joke a lot about retiring together and then she stops bringing it up"
Jun 11
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Daniel Lavery
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Everything I Ate, Read, and Heard in Senior Living This Week
chicken fried steak, getting your grandchildren to respect you, and Elaine May
Jun 9
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Daniel Lavery
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"The indifference of the remembering-machine to flesh": Are Chairs Frightening? A Chat With My Wife Grace Lavery About "Backrooms"
"the tendency of objects to become chairs, which is to say, to become inert, receptive, and movable"
Jun 2
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Daniel Lavery
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May 2026
Free Copies of "Meeting New People" For Anyone Who's Been Recently Dumped By A Friend
You do have to come to one of the book events. I'm not made of money
May 26
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Daniel Lavery
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I wrote a book about friendship breakups, so I interviewed a bunch of my friends about their friendship breakups
"You're expected to gain and lose friends quietly. A person in unchecked pain makes other people uneasy"
May 18
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Daniel Lavery
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A Chat With Sam Bodrojan: Thinking About Our Boyfriends Thinking About Porn
helmet girl and the Chatner together at last/"what are you thinking about" as principled attack
May 14
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Daniel Lavery
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Types of Fun
Type V Fun: An activity that was fun in the moment, like a particularly creative moment of cruelty leveraged against a peer during adolescence, but…
May 13
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Daniel Lavery
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