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I wrote a book about friendship breakups, so I interviewed a bunch of my friends about their friendship breakups

A Chat With Sam Bodrojan: Thinking About Our Boyfriends Thinking About Porn

Types of Fun

"Soft Play"

"Any friendship that comes together over a mutual dislike of a third person is the best kind. Don’t let anybody tell you different"

"I don't know where you find the time": On Chasers

Some Thoughts on "Mikey and Nicky"

Helping and making sure everybody sees you being helpful

On "Marty" (Ernest Borgnine, not Supreme)

Being Trans at Christian College, Part II: "Temptation Tuesdays" and Secret Weddings

Trans at the Evangelical Christian College

Some Thoughts on Elaine May's "A New Leaf"

Return to Pervert Ethnography Island: The Cuckold, The Gooner, The Fujoshi

Cassius Only Has One Suggestion For Everything

On Sleeping With Many Normal Men

You're In A Lesbian Pulp Novel From 1958! What's Distracting You From Work And Causing Your Heterosexual Coworker Nora To Glance Curiously Over At Your Desk?

Advice Everyone Should Follow

The Sad Butler Movie Index

The platonic equivalent of r/deadbedrooms and friendship crop rotation

Signs You're A Doctor In A Midcentury Novel

Everything Beebo Brinker Eats and Drinks in the 1962 Lesbian Pulp Classic "Beebo Brinker"

They Got Me At Last. I Became A Cyclist

A Biblical Exegesis of P.D. Eastman's "Go, Dog, Go"

I'll Tell You This For Free: Never Get The First Vitamin They Tell You To Buy

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